Spiritual direction can lead to spiritual growth and development. It can be a practical way for you to continue in your spiritual journey.
As a trained spiritual director, many people have asked me what spiritual direction is, and why it might be a good fit for them.
Previously, I shared Why I Got a Spiritual Director. Now I’ll offer you an in-depth look at what spiritual direction is, what a spiritual director does, and how to determine if spiritual direction could benefit your spiritual growth.
If you want to know more about spiritual direction, read on.
What is spiritual direction?
Spiritual direction is guidance and companionship given by another person that allows you to grow in your spiritual journey and relationship with God.
It creates a safe place for you to explore your relationship with God, become more aware of God’s presence and work in your life, and make sense of your faith journey.
The purpose of spiritual direction is to grow in intimacy with God, become a more spiritually formed person, and live a meaningful life. In essence, it’s primary purpose is to guide you into becoming more fully who you are meant to be in relationship with God.
What does a spiritual director do?
No one needs to journey alone. A spiritual director is a trained listener who will accompany you as you share about your spiritual journey. A spiritual director’s primary intent is to guide you into encounters with God, and to help you pay attention to God’s activity in your life.
A spiritual director serves as a guide, support, and encourager. Through prayer, conversation, listening, asking questions, and letting the Spirit give direction, the spiritual director will help you interpret your experiences and respond to God's presence and voice. He or she will listen and create a safe place to explore your relationship with God and unearth your deepest desires. There is no set agenda, and you are free to consider whatever aspect of your spiritual journey you wish.
Who is spiritual direction meant for?
Spiritual direction is available for anyone who is seeking to encounter God and go deeper in their spiritual journey. In spiritual direction, you will have a safe and open environment to explore their relationship with God. People of all faiths, traditions, and backgrounds are welcome to spiritual direction.
How could spiritual direction benefit you?
Whether you seek a spiritual director during a specific season of life, or engage with one as a part of your regular spiritual practices, spiritual direction is beneficial in many ways.
Here are a few reasons you may want to meet with a spiritual director:
- You want to explore and interpret your experiences of God.
- You have a desire to integrate spirituality into your daily life.
- You want to deepen your relationship with God.
- You are in a season of discernment or transition.
- You want to seek God in the joys, struggles, and transitions of life.
- You want a clearer sense of call and direction.
- You desire encouragement, guidance, and companionship in the spiritual journey.
How is spiritual direction different from counseling or therapy?
Spiritual direction is not psychotherapy, counseling, or financial advice. Spiritual direction differs from counseling ministries primarily in its focus: the intention of spiritual direction is not to help solve a problem, but rather to look for God's activity within any problems and within the rest of your life experiences. This perspective invites you into deeper relationship with God in the midst of whatever you are experiencing.
What people say about their spiritual direction experience
Here are some ways people describe their experience in spiritual direction:
“I was at some major personal cross-roads in my life, and spiritual direction helped me hear from God in the midst of making those decisions. It helped me to listen to my own desires, as well as God's whispers of love and blessing. God gave me a bigger view of what life with him can be like, and cultivated more grace in me for myself and for others. I experienced more of God's love and acceptance."
"Meeting with a spiritual director gave me a renewed sense of God's presence in my life. Whatever seemed murky or frustrating was replaced with a total sense of peace. During one spiritual direction session, my spiritual director and I prayed together. In that prayer time, I was overcome with relief, and knew that God was releasing me from having to do and be anything beyond what I could manage."
“My spiritual director helped me through a season of waiting on God. Through spiritual direction, I learned how to ground my identity in God, connect with him, and make my spirituality my own. I am so much more secure in who I am, and more aware of God's voice speaking to me."
How to find a spiritual director
There are several ways to find a spiritual director. Here are a few places to start your search:
- Ask a minister, rabbi, priest, or other religious leader for names of spiritual directors they recommend.
- Call local theology schools, institutes, and retreat centers, and ask if they have a list of spiritual directors.
- Search the Spiritual Directors International Seek and Find Guide. This is the most comprehensive online directory of spiritual directors around the world.
Every spiritual director has his or her own unique experience and style. It is up to you to choose a spiritual director who has the training, formation and experience that suits your needs. You may want to set up an initial appointment with a potential spiritual director to explore whether it is a good fit. It will help to ask questions about the spiritual director’s experience, expectations of the spiritual director and directee relationship and roles, whether there is a fee, and any other expectations.
What to expect in a session with a spiritual director
- You can meet with a spiritual director in person, or via phone or video chat.
- A spiritual direction session usually lasts about one hour, and takes place about once a month.
- Each spiritual director sets their own fee.
- Everything discussed in spiritual direction is confidential. We will honor your privacy.
Ready to go deeper in your spiritual journey?
Now that you know more about spiritual direction, consider that it might be a great next step for you in your own spiritual journey. If you want to learn more about how I can help you as a spiritual director, check out my services.
You may also like my post Why I Got a Spiritual Director.
For further reading: Sacred Companions: The Gift of Spiritual Friendship & Direction by David G. Benner
Do you have experiences with spiritual direction? Or questions for me about spiritual direction that I didn’t cover? Please share in the comments.